Unfortunately, for many of us, true authenticity can only come from finding ourselves in desperate situations. I am speaking from personal experience here.
I recently spoke to a room full of newly unemployed people, folks who had never really known that kind of desperation before. At the end, the first question was,
“Do you have to reach that point of feeling like you have very little left to lose, before you can begin to acknowledge and appreciate your own uniqueness?”
My only answer was, “I did.” Before that point, I still believed I had all the answers. I still believed in the traditional American dream and felt like it was working for me to some extent. In other words, I was still willing to ignore my deepest personal need to become my best self, because I had some sort of marriage and job and that felt safe. Don’t fix it if it ain’t broken!
But when that all crumbles before your eyes, when everything you thought you knew about yourself and your future is no longer true, desperation CAN lead to inspiration.
The same can be said about marriage. If you have a mediocre marriage that meets a few of your needs and you feel safe, you may stay in it, because the alternatives look grim. But when that marriage ends, you are forced to become much more creative when thinking about your future. You realize now anything could happen, and that can be refreshing and terrifying at the same time.
But if you are willing to take the necessary risks and take the time to invest in finding a better future for yourself, help is available. If you are certain you don’t want to go back to the same old, same old or your life feels like it has turned into a 9-to-5 way of dying, you are now ready to change for the better.
You may be ready to find the courage inside to explore what you were put on this earth to do!
Remember: do-overs are indeed possible before it’s all over!